Find the Good in Your Life
We often overlook what is good in our life or what is going well. No matter the current life experience you're in right now, there is always something good. The nature of life is duality. There is up and down, right and left, light and darkness, big and small, good and bad, slow and fast. Everything has a dualistic nature, because of it we can truly experience the good, the light and the joy. We cannot feel joy without sadness and we cannot feel sadness without joy. As much as things can feel or seem dark, heavy or not good, I want to remind that everything is twofold.
Take a moment, think of something that feels hard, challenging or anything you would call "not soo good". Now see it as twofold. You're having one experience of it, but what would be the flip of it? What is it that you are learning from it? What is it trying to emerge from it? What is it's purpose? When we open our mind to look beyond what is and see the dualistic nature of our experiences, we can become aware of the wisdom and teaching in it.
A victim mindset will always say why is this happening to me or what's wrong with me, but a curious mindset will always ask why is this happening for me, what is it trying to show me that I am may not be aware of. Asking yourself empowering questions that broaden your perspective is the best habit to cultivate because it always allows you to see the twofold nature of your experiences and the things you're going through.
Examples of empowering questions:
1. What am I learning from this?
2. How is this helping me grow?
3. What is trying to emerge from this?
4. How could this be a good thing?
5. What is the good in this?
6. What is this teaching me about myself?
7. If this was my teacher, what would be the lesson in this?
Many years ago a mentor told me, this too shall pass. At the time I didn't understand because I was in thick of an experience I didn't want to be in. And all he said was this too shall pass. It actually made me angry, because that wasn't gonna help me get out of the experience or make it any better. It took me a while to realize the dualistic nature of life. That no matter how permanent something seems it won't last forever, nothing ever does. Name one thing that has permanence to it.
Nothing.
Everything eventually will change. I like knowing that life is in constant motion, and change is the only constant. Whatever it is you are finding yourself in right now, bless it and open up your mind to know that it too shall pass. And the part you can play in making it pass with less suffering is by opening your heart and mind to what it is trying to teach you and how it is helping you grow. Receive and integrate the wisdom the experience brings and you will see it for what it really is, a teacher of helping you know yourself deeply, embody more of your true self in your worth, wholeness and divine perfection.